This evening I was thinking about this dear friend and it got me to thinking. (scary,I know!) I began to wonder how often the same can be said of homeschool moms? I say that, not to make marginalize a person's physical disabilities, or to inflate a home-educating mom's plight; it was a genuine concern that came to mind. Although most of us posses a certain degree of strong independence and "grit" that is inherent in directing our children's education, I image there are some among us who are struggling silently.
You know that mom that has a dozen kids and makes it look so easy? She might be battling postpartum depression.
What about that mom who seems to have unlimited financial resources for curriculum or activities? Perhaps she struggles in her marriage with a husband who is gone more than he's home.
That mom with all the talented kids who are successful in all things academic or athletic? It's possible she's dealing with a rebellious heart and attitude among one or her children.
And what about that mom who always seems so godly and spiritually mature? She just might be struggling with her faith, doubting God's goodness, questioning His faithfulness.
My dear friend encourages others suffering with unseen disabilities to be bold in telling others about their unseen illnesses so that those around them will be aware of their needs. I think all moms, and especially homeschool moms, would benefit from doing the same.So my challenge is two-fold:
1. Tell a friend. We need to be honest with each other, sharing our struggles, fears, and burdens. Because if you keep wearing a smile and never allow yourself to be vulnerable, no one will ever know. And if they don't know, they can't help. So whether it's as simple as the frustration of lost library books and pencils that mysteriously vanish at math time, or as serious as a rebellious child or troubled marriage, please talk to someone. Confide in a close friend, a church member, a mentor, or a staff person at your church. And most of all, tell your Father. He's a good Father who loves you perfectly and unconditionally.
2. Be a friend. That means sometimes you may have to ask the hard questions: How's your marriage? How's your walk with the Lord? Do you have your child's heart? Then once you ask, simply listen. Don't try to fix it. Don't give opinions, advice, or suggestions (unless they ask). Just listen to her heart. Sometimes it helps simply knowing you are not alone.
How had today's post challenged you? I'd love to hear your thoughts below! Let's join in conversation together to encourage and cheer each other onward!